If you read this title and thought this was a tutorial, just exit out. Nope. Not a tutorial.
Some things are more and more amusing as time goes on. It's amusing how many of my conservative friends turn liberal, how the most free loving ladies are the most vocal mothers, and how simple old dating became some horrible art form that you need training for.
So I haven't dated in 6 years. This is mostly by choice. I don't really have the time and I am pretty selfish with the time I do have. What I can't help but notice and hear is how much social media and even standard communication has changed. I met my last boyfriend at a party. Pretty standard for 2011. Now, people are meeting on dating sites, apps, and more.
Earlier this year, I read Modern Romance by Anziz Ansari. This book was fascinating and terrifying. The time and research put into it was remarkable. The results scared me. KNowing that the comfortable meeting someone, getting to know them, and deciding to start a relationship is gone. Everything now is fast and technical. What do us old fashioned weirdos who have been self centered for so many years do?
One humorous side effect of crossed generations and lack of experience on certain social media came one day when my two dear student workers, neither still work for me, started snap chatting pictures of each other on, well, Snap Chat. One worker was telling me about it and I was so confused. When I was that age, If you sent a picture of yourself, it would have been a sign you liked them. You would be showing off. That apparently isn't the case anymore. Now they just do it because everyone is vain. I am also old. How are us old people supposed to navigate this?!
Dear daters out there, write a manual for those of us who may start to date again in the next 5-10 years when Netflix runs out of good shows.