It is amazing what time does to a person. A few short years ago, I had a large expansive group of friends that ranged from high school pals, to sorority sisters, to college friends, to work colleagues. I had no idea how the dynamic would change because of life. Relationships got in the way, rumors got in the way, and sometimes my schedule got it in way.
About 5 years ago, I felt like I lost everyone. I understood that my decisions to choose work and stay in Fort Wayne played a part, but my decisions to take opposing sides of fights played a huge part in these chasms between friendships. I started to like my life with limited friends, but I felt so lonely when I looked on social media and saw my old friends together without me.
A few weeks ago, something was feeling different. I started to feel like I was getting along with these people on Facebook. I had one friend post something that struck me and I replied. Apparently she had me in mind when she wrote it. Finally, this weekend I ran into an old sorority sister. Our friendship was very hot and cold sometimes at the end. We chatted like we never had any drama.
Is it true that friends really are forever? Do we just need breaks from people sometimes so we can grow? I know I have grown mentally over the past 5 years. Maybe not emotionally, but I think I always loved my friends. I would always stick up for them, but I just needed a reminded that the person I cared for still existed.
Thanks to my friends for still tolerating me after all of these years!