About a month ago, my best friend texted me at like 10:30 pm asking how far the Target on Thomas Road was. Well it is about the same distance as any other Target in town since we have an interstate and I live in a weird place. She asked if I would be bothered if I would stop and pick up a unicorn for Annelise. All she had to do is say was, "bitch you're going to Target to get me a unicorn." I didn't need a formal ask. Well the next day, I left work trying to make a laugh out of it. I was like, okay bye, I have to go pick up a unicorn! That unicorn had to spend a few weeks residing in my trunk before it made it to its rightful owner.
Amanda and I were going to run the Vineyard Trail at Two EE's together, but for some reason she couldn't this year. I signed up and didn't but that is a different post entirely. I have been working crazy hours at work getting ready for this event. I was needing to work really late and I really needed to get my apartment treated for fleas. I hadn't done this in a long time. Two cats seriously need a clean space. Since I needed them to be gone, I took them to my mom's house for a vacation. She would babysit them and I could meet up with Amanda and trade off the unicorn.
I was so excited when she pulled up around 8:30 am with two chipper young ladies with her. Kensley, my buddy, I have already started prepping for an arranged marriage with my nephew. Luckily, he was visiting too. Nathan was so excited to see her. They brought out a calmness in each other that I can't explain. Nathan showed her everything. His toys, his books, his bow-staff, his mom's car. He was just ready to impress. I accept this pairing. Little Annelise also came with. I have not interacted as much with her as I have Kensley. Kensley and I get each other, but Annelise is just so normal that I assumed I didn't need to work at it. Well now that she is older, she is just super precious. We always had a good time when she was a bitty baby. She was a damn good baby. Now she is just a sweet 3 year old that I have missed so much time with. I am a workaholic and a complete busybody. I only see Nathan a lot because he Face-times me and comes to visit me. I typically only see sweet Daphne over holidays and Cal on holidays or when he has a sleepover with Grandma Betty and Grandpa Charlie.
One day, I will slow down, whether by choice or by force. I hope before that happens, these kids won't be grown up and married with kids of their own. I want to be there for the big things. I want to help teach them and give advice.
Today I decided to finally go back to a salon for my hair coloring needs. You won't see me with 3 different colors in a month in the near future, and yes, that does make me sad. What doesn't make me sad is the customer experience. I used the trusty google machine to find some worthy salon that would give me the biggest bang for my buck, yet not be super sketchy.
Well, I was satisfied. I am consistently unsatisfied in life. My friend Susan and I have even had deep psychological conversations about why I am so willing to change things. I claim that I am perfectly described by the song "Satisfied" in the musical Hamilton. While some of this may be striving for approval, other parts of it may come from the insecurity of being 30 and still single.
Well I know really cool things are coming and I don't just mean the weather! I thought it was time to invest in me. It was time to say, I'm worth more than a $9 box.
My trusty friend Google sent me to Forum Day Spa and Salon. It was early, the alarm cat woke me up at 3 am, my hair was sticking straight up, I had a mysterious cut on my face, and I had one of those allergy sore throats that screamed fall. I dragged myself up and put my short hair in a small ponytail, attempted to makeup over the cut, and grabbed some tea for the allergy throat. I made my way to the salon, still early, and with Starbucks in hand.
I was very pleased with the absolute ball of energy that surrounded my hair and me. Heather Rogers, had originally planned to take the day off, but she, like me, didn't want to go play in the rain. For the first time in many years, I said just do something that looks nice. I am really not that picky. Some stylists probably love that and others probably want to hit you with a hairbrush. I was loved. Not only was I treated amazing, but I loved my hair.
I feel I am not promoting businesses enough so here it is. This stylist is amazing. Real conversations, hilarious, and talented.
Since I started selling Young Living, I learned that other people affiliated with the company are not just about selling oils. This is a huge relief since I absolutely suck at sales. I can tell you all of the benefits, give a recommendation, but at the end of the day, I am not rich and I could never force someone to invest in something that they can not financially handle.
The difference between Young Living and other companies is that it really is okay. I don't have that pressure. Yeah, I do work my butt off. I do struggle. I also do it for myself. I want to succeed at something I don't normally do. I want to try new things.
A few weeks ago, I cam across a Twitter account for Live Oola. I wasn't immediately aware it was Young Living affiliated until I started to really dive in. They had these beautiful quotes on inspirational photos and had very energetic team members. I was dealing with a wide range of emotions over the past week and I decided it was time. I needed to check this out. I started to read these quotes and I was struck again and and again by how relatable they were. I didn't even know that they were encouraging you to be a better version of. They wanted you to feel at least a 7/10 on every scale of your life. Family, friends, fun, finances, fitness, faith, and field. I was alarmed that my average score was 477. Ideally, you should be in the 700s or higher.
What am I doing wrong? I dug through the quotes to see what really struck me and I was not surprised to see what I saw.
I am always trying to change my situation or correct something. I always feel like I am right and others are wrong. That isn't true. I don't really think others are wrong. I think we are all right in our own way, but some of us need to improve. I can't fix someone elses problems. They can do that and I can fix me.
I feel like so much of life is a struggle. It is amazing when you look back and see how easy you have had it. I have had terrible experiences, but I have learned so much. Things that I am positive about now, I wasn't always positive about. I need to look for my learning lessons.
This one immediately reminded me of a Josh Groban song. I listened to the song "You Are Loved" so much, yet I never took stock in it. Sometimes you have to be beat down enough to get up and say, "No. I am not taking any more abuse. I have an army behind me and I just now saw them."
This saying is my goal. I desperately seek balance, but I am always tipping the scales. Trust is hard, and I don't know what contentment means, but at the end of the day, I want it.
So much. I can't wait to see the puzzle come together.
Have you ever gone on a shopping spree? Ha. Me too. Have you ever done it online? Ha. Me too. Have you ever decided that the only things you really need are useful and somewhat hilarious? Oh my gosh you should have seen my mail!
Yesterday, I finally decided to check my mail. I finally got really good at checking when I was buying too many little things off of the Wish app. I stopped purchasing when I ordered a necklace that took a month and a half to get to the arrival date (and was pushed back). Once I hit 50 days, I wrote a nasty note wanting a return. They said they would and I would probably still get it since it was in transit. I never saw it. It's probably a good thing. The last necklace I had like it lasted maybe a month and I'm not convinced the glowy material wasn't really radioactive.
Shopping addictions aside, I only got my normal bills and Young Living orders. YL doesn't count because I sell it. So finally I go to check my mail without fear just like a normal person. I immediately remember that I have contacts that I ordered during Game of THrones the week before. YES! I have been wearing my green and hazel fairly frequently, but I hadn't worn blue since 6th grade. Yes, that was about 20 years ago I assume. Score one, I have new contacts, but I don't do anything on weekends because the cats deserve me.
Now, I am expecting a collective internet face palm. Go ahead... I'll wait.
Good. I'm glad you got that out of your system. Now to hear what I actually bought!
I came to my door to see two boxes of items from the HSA store! The what? I got 3 wrist and hand braces, one ankle brace, a back brace, a TMJ strap, migraine cooling pads, a migraine face mask, an elbow brace, a new thermometer, and Frozen band-aids!
It was like Christmas! I didn't know what to open first! My hands hurt frequently, but my back is terrible, but NO. I am so excited about the TMJ thing! I need to go to bed immediately! I gathered my items and put the on the couch. I grabbed the really cool TMJ thing and headed off to watch some sad David Duchovony movie on Netflix. Between having an oil diffuser and this, bedtime has never been so amazing!
Most people around me know that I have a little bit of pain. Sometimes it is when my 20 lb. cat sits on me, sometimes it is when I realize my dishwasher doesn't put the dishes away for me. Every other day, it is a sharp pain in my left big toe, pain in my left foot on the top near the ankle, radiating pain up my left leg, sharp pain and spasms from my left hand and wrist, and a weird pain in my left arm below the elbow.
This week, the saga of the mystery left side main broadened. I mysteriously developed pain in my ear and throat. Well the ear turned out to be lots of fluid behind my ears. the throat pain was mysterious because it was not in a sore throat spot.
A few things I hate to do: going to the doctor, going to the pharmacy, and dealing with problems. As I sit here typing with pain in my left fingers, I think, I should go back and get that checked since I've been on steroids for 4 days and still have so much pain. Maybe next year. I am convinced that even though I don't look like I am in pain, that it is starting impact me mentally. That is obviously not a long trip, but I can't go 15 hours a day like I used to. I get tired before the end of my shift. I actually starty to worry about what is wrong with me.
One of these day, my stubborn self will go, but until then, if you see me not smile or see me looking at my phone, I may be trying to concentrate on something else.
Side note: Since using essential oils, tangerine has helped my book while panaway has helped with the pain. !
As everyone knows, my summer started off pretty amazing. I'm not saying the last month and a half was bad, but it has test my heart and my patience.
I am finally at a crossroads and I need to choose my direction. I have had the most wonderful past two days. On Friday, I had my first Professional Development book Club at work. One attendee, a coworker of mine, are essentially the same person I think. We knew we would get along. We also had a student come to the group that was extremely refreshing. As we all talked, got off topic, got back on topic, and found more realistic scenarios to the examples in the book, we realized how important it was for 2 young women in their early 30s to be there. This girl was 19 and from a different country. She stepped out of her comfort zone to come. We laughed, talked, and gave real world advise on jobs, school, dating, and even self image.
I think we forget sometimes that we are important in even the smallest ways.
I also had the humbling opportunity to guide a group of alumni from the late 1960s back on campus for the first time. The men I worked with were fantastic, but when we all got together, it was like we were all friends. They all started teasing each other like they were undergrads saying "do you remember when you did that?" and "I bet you can't remember who performed here in 1968..." I think the moment that was real for me was when we all walked into the fieldhouse. I swear I saw a tear in one members eye. Everything they dreamed of in the 1960's and 70's had come to pass. I was just a witness and a guide to show it.
Life throws you unexpected curves. Sometimes you get what you want and sometimes another opportunity opens up when another closes. No matter the circumstances, I appreciate being able to make a difference when I am and how I am.
Get Ready to Run – Preparing with a Great Runner’s Diet
SweetsDark Chocolate – Chocolate? We all love chocolate. Chocolate is great for your heart and is full of antioxidants. I consider that a win!
ProteinEggs – Eggs are one of the best sources of protein around. You have many options on preparations and they are pretty tasty. You can also eat them at any time of the day. I feel pretty silly eating chicken in the morning, but breakfast for dinner is amazing!
Salmon – Besides tasting amazing, salmon is a good source of omega-3 fats and it helps with inflammation.
Chicken – Chicken is great because it is easy to cook. It contains selenium, something that will help protect muscles from damage.
DairyLow Fat Yogurt – Yogurt has many health benefits. It helps with digestion, contains probiotics, and has anti-inflammatory powers. You can also mix yogurt with other food groups such as sweets, proteins, or fruits for added taste and effect.
VegetablesMixed Greens – Who wants a boring salad? I certainly don’t eat iceberg (since it has 0 nutritional value). I personally love a mixture of spinach (a super food) along with romaine and kale. The more you mix, the more benefits you will get from the different types.
FruitsOranges – Oranges will help with soreness when you are running because of the vitamin C. Remind me to take supplements, drink orange juice and eat nothing but oranges before my next race!
Mixed Berries – It seems that the popular theme in runner’s advice is to pump yourself full of food with tons of antioxidants. Whether you are eating fresh or frozen berries, you should try and get as many as possible because these are great for muscle repair and can help with future problems that could arise.
GrainsWhole Grains – Whether it is breads or pastas, go for the whole grain. It is easier on your digestion, contains more nutrients, and has more health benefits.
It is summertime and many of you young folks are going off to college. Okay, fair enough, many of you older folks are as well. It is an exciting time for you and your family as you make hard decisions for your future. Good luck. I am glad it is you and not me. As a seasoned graduate and higher education professional, let me give you a few quick tips to finding that perfect major.
1. Read a newspaper or watch the news. - Using basic common sense on world events can be instrumental in selecting a major. For example, if their was an over abundance of nurses, you wouldn't want to go into that. There never will be, thank God.
2. Listen to your heart. - Don't pick a major that your heart isn't in. Parents have no right selecting a major. Many schools won't even let them speak or be in a room when the selection is happening. This is your life and you will be living with it.
3. Listen to your wallet. - I'm not telling you to be cheap. I'm talking about a return on investment. What is the world looking for in terms of trade? Could you find a passion doing something like that? Remember that being a clown may be all fun and games, but it won't pay the bills. That is unless you are Ronald McDonald.
4. Consider going undecided. - You have time to decide. Take a year and take your pre-requisites. See what you love and see what you hate. You may want to be a business major and find out that you suck at accounting.
5. Get an internship and externship. - While you are deciding, try experiencing the field. You may find a workplace environment that you like and they can guide you to the best major.
I am trying a new adventure. My mom is extremely nervous about selling things, but I am not. I have had amazing success with essential oils. I have decided to take over and sell Young Living oils for her.
If you are ever in need of some awesome oils, look me up! Well, you don't have to go far. I have my ordering site below and you can email me for consult.
The following excerpt was published in 2016. Let's reflect on personal success and mild failures that can only make me a better person.
It is no secret that I work in higher education. I also have my pretty diploma on my office wall, but that doesn’t mean that I am done learning. In fact, I do some really boneheaded things. Some people may even say that I may be mildly helpless at times. A little more education could never hurt! No one should finish learning after college.