Working at a university often makes me feel old. I see so many you kids that, appear to get younger, attend every year. I've mentioned before that through our book club in Alumni Relations, we have the chance to meet students and alumni and connect them. One student who came to the first meeting and has brought more, is An.
A few weeks ago, I brought An to Speed Networking, After many conversations with her, it hit me why I am so interested in making sure she is taken care of. You see, An is a freshman here from Vietnam. She has four long years ahead of her. At the end of the day, she reminds me of my German sister Fred. Fred is fearless. She came to America to live for a year, left friends, a family that needed her, and she had to tolerate me. Trust me, I was an asshole. It wasn't until her returning visits that we went from ehhh sisters-ish people to SISTERS *HUGS*! Jackie Fred is just as much part of my family as anyone else. I see the same bold spirit in this young Vietnamese girl.
Tonight, I was driving An back to her dorm and I asked what her plans were for Thanksgiving, even though I was fairly certain that I knew the answer. She was sitting in her room and studying. I know that they don't have Thanksgiving in Vietnam, but this is freaking America, and she should have some freaking turkey! I told her that she was welcome to come to my apartment to have Thanksgiving with my mom and me since my dad was leaving for Brazil. We talked a little more about her culture and religion, and the short ride was over.
An went to get out of the car and she gave me a big hug. Sometimes you just need to show someone that you care and that they are not alone. It is a big world. Sometimes your germy germ makes it seem small with all of her hopping around, but when you are 19 years old, it is a huge place. Sometimes, a friend is all you need.
It amazes me that a musical dramady was the one show to address bullying, mental illness, love, heartbreak, obsession, alcoholism, transgender rights, suicide, and so much more. It wasn't just occasionally covered. It was all interwoven through every script and into character. We rooted for couples and their ability to get through adversity. Even through Montieth's death, the writer's never said one way or another why it happened, but instead they addressed it with a scolding quote from Kurt saying "Everyone wants to talk about how he died, but who cares? It's how he lived". That is just one important lesson.
I am not saying that this is the best show on TV, but it was real. We don't have enough real emotion in the world. We don't have real happy endings, but it is nice to see something that takes a lemons and makes lemonade. Or takes ice and makes slushies.
Before I start, isn't that old man the cutest thing in the world?
Also, happy anniversary mom and dad. Love is like a battlefield so it is perfect that your wedding anniversary is on Veteran's Day.
I honestly don't believe in saying Happy Veteran's Day. I see nothing happy about what they went through to get a holiday. I do believe that every day should be a celebration for what these men and women do for our country.
I come from a long line men who served for our country. My great grandfather Swenson, my Grandpa Sarjeant, my Grandpa Condry, my great uncle Franklin, my uncle Dave, uncle Jim, cousins Randy and Chris, and I am sure I forgot some. Each one of these people, by choice or not, gave a part of themselves so I can sit here and be a blabber mouth.
This year has been increasingly hard to look back on. I had to say goodbye to one of my favorite veterans of all. My Grandpa Condry was one of the most beautiful souls to ever live. He treasured his time in the service and he wore it like a badge of honor. Today, I celebrate you. I celebrate how much you loved the service and your country. I celebrate my friends who were in the service, like my buddy Alex, who still fights for veteran's rights once they are home. Today is no different than any other day really. Today, I encourage you to thank a veteran for their service. Tomorrow, i encourage you to do it again. That sacrifice is wort more than one day a year.
Most people that know me know that I have two books, okay you caught me, three books that I call my favorite, and I just can't pick which actually takes the prize. One reason I love all of these books is because they are strong female authors, but another reason is because they are so much like me.
The first book is Lean In by Sheryl Sandburg. I have talked about this book so many times that I am not sure if a single person around me doesn't know who this is. As COO of Facebook, she has been a pioneer for women's rights in the workplace. I laugh sometimes when I say that too. I have always been so conservative, but when I ventured into more professional roles, I learned just how bad equality issues really were. I had no idea that I would have to stand up and defend myself and my work ethic against a man. I especially didn't know that there was a difference between pay for a man with a family and a single woman. Sheryl's book gave me the confidence to stand up for myself. She also opened up some very important discussions about roles in the workplace and home.
I hated The Office. I admit it. I really tried to watch it. I sat in my apartment one summer when I was 29 convinced that I was going to watch it and that the only reason I didn't like it before, was just because an ex-boyfriend did like it. I couldn't be more wrong. I want to say I got to episode 3, but I don't even know if I got that far. I got to where Dwight dismantled a CPR mannequin during a safety class.
I wanted to like the show, but not for Steve Carrell. I was a fan of The Mindy Project and I knew of her on-again off-again romance with BJ Novak and I wanted to see it come to life on screen back when she was Kelly. I had to stick with Mindy. I loved TV Mindy, but I was really a fan of real life Mindy. Her book of essays were on point. She was talking like she was any other single woman that was absolutely sick of being alone and judged for going to McDonalds, she hated being a bridesmaid, and she was tired of being considered heavy.
The first time I read her second book, Why Not Me?, I sat and read it in one sitting. I felt like I could hear Mindy's voice in my head. I took that book everywhere. I read excerpts to my friends and family. I bragged on it like it was my own. Mindy Lahiri may be a hot mess, but Mindy Kaling is a hero.
Sometimes I feel like I live in a world that needs to be a comedy show, but apparently isn't funny. Maybe I just have a stupid sense of humor, or maybe I just have a low tolerance for people being ridiculous. Since I am 99% sure that not everyone understands me, I have carefully chosen 10 funny things to show you just how I think.
Sorry, not sorry.
As the weather gets colder, my movie choices will start to gravitate to winter romances. When it comes to winter romances, nothing can beat Frozen. Don't you try and argue with me. I know Frozen takes place in the summer and Elsa turns the kingdom into winter after she panics after her coronation. Only everyone knows that. One of the best parts of Frozen is the character of Anna. I know all of you liked "Let It Go" and Queen Elsa, but I was team Anna all of the way. I never saw another Disney Princess quite like her. She made me feel like I was being represented. I'll tell you why...
She fell into a freaking boat. Okay, Hans kinda knocked her over. She also had a little slip on telling him how dreamy he was. So relatable.
This is what I look like in the morning. Thank you for recognizing that we tend to look like monsters in the morning. We don't need those high expectations.
That feeling you get when you smell chocolate can only be described as euphoria. Anna knows this. I know this. We need to go to DeBrands.
True love is sharing a sandwich. If you find someone who eats the same kind, keep them.
Typically I spend all of my fall free time watching scary movies, but today, I opted for a new routine. I feel like I have seen every horror movie under the sun. Instead, I decided to watch the American Horror Story - Roanoke season. I have seen every season, impressed by some and not impressed by others.
I was always intrigued by the story of Roanoke, but this story is mildy strange. I was shocked how bloody and deadly it was. I can't remember another season where almost every single person died, but maybe age is getting to me. Oh wait. Murder House.
I loved some of the tie ins between other seasons. I loved seeing Lana Winters and hearing about Bloody Face. I loved the ties to the Mott family. It was a very inventive season, even though much of it was extremely pushed.
My night would have been so much more peaceful if I would have just watched a repeat of another horror movie. I decided to stay up until 4 am to finish the entire season. This morning person (not night owl), was mustering up the energy to hit "still watching" every time. At 1:30 am, I even had a knock on my door. It was fairly faint. 2 knocks, another new knocks, one more knock. It wasn't the sound because I keep my TV fairly quiet and I obviously had been sitting on the couch for hours. I may never know who decided to bug me in the middle of the night, but be warned, Those cats were in pounce mode.
I have been involved with Young Living for 4 months, and I pretty much love it. A friend of mine recently switched from It Works to Norwex and invited me to a party. I was skeptical because I sell Young Living and we have a cleaning line. After looking at the products, we are so different! On top of that, we both are huge proponents of living a chemical free life!
When I started with YL, I was given a DVD with a news anchor that gave a testimonial about how cutting out chemicals reduced migraines. Her migraines were turning into mini strokes. I was shook. My migraines have put me in the ER. What if mine were actually like that. My peach and vision are both impacted. I've had seizures with my migraines.
One of my upline ladies, Karen, also gave me a sample of Thieves cleaner. I was in love. On top of that, when I met Kari and decided to join forces and host a party, I got to take a rag home to use in the mean time. I fell in love with the glass cleaning cloth. The other one was great too, but I have a glass top desk at work. I hate that desk. I hate how much windex we go through.
At the end of the day, which would I choose? I would choose both. I honestly believe these are two different products and they have different qualities. If you have allergies, I would go with Norwex. If you are into true natural products, I would go with Thieves.
So many things are happening in this world that just make me shake my head or make me want to hide under the covers. I am going to give a disclaimer that my opinion may not be popular.
I am going to start this soap box with the popular debate of Puerto Rico and the current amount of aid being sent to the territory. As a territory of the US, Puerto Rico is the responsibility of the United States. In a series of obnoxious tweets, Donald Trump tried to minimize the problems in the territory and say that the US can't keep forces in Puerto Rico to keep assisting in relief. The question is, do we still have responders in Texas and Florida? Were all of those place rebuilt overnight? The last time I checked, some places had months before they would find relief. It makes you wonder, why are Puerto Ricans being treated differently? We are all people. They are Americans. Is it because they don't have the same voting rights? Is he still holding a grudge against the mayor of San Juan because she goes out and physically helps people instead of making political statements? Everyone needs to put politics aside and put on their human hat. Imagine you are walking down the street and a group of pregnant women fell down because someone littered the sidewalk and they didn't see it. Would you go help them up or would you say, oh well they are capable of getting themselves up because in a few months they are going to have 2 people t take care of, No. You would have basic human decency and check to make sure someone wasn't hurt.
If you didn't get mad at paragraph, hold on tight. We are going to talk about kneeling during the National Anthem. First of all, I think it is crappy to choose the anthem as a time to protest, however, I strongly believe in the right to free speech. I also believe that this subject isn't black and white, no pun intended. This is a topic that has evolved over the past few months. It started with Kapernick kneeling to make a statement about equality and fair treatment amongst blacks and whites. People joined him in his protest, but it wasn't until Donald Trump called them out, did droves more players of all colors join in on the protest. While the the original protest still exists in the hearts of some players, some are kneeling in defense of freedom of speech and freedom to protest. When the highest elected official in the country threatens someones right to a peaceful protest, people must stand or kneel in unity. I'm not saying it is right to do this during the anthem, but everyone has the right to stand up for their beliefs.
And the final soap box for the day is brought to you by misogamy, that pain in the ass term that is all over the news. We have been hearing it about Bill O'Riley, Harvey Weinstein, Hugh Hefner, and Roger Ailes. I am not going to criticizing the dead, because that just isn't fair, but the first two can surely take it. I recently watched a video by Mayim Balik where she was talking about how she hopes to avoid raising her sons to be like these men. It was funny because she said that when she heard about the allegations, she wasn't surprised. She infuriated, but it is all too common these days. It's humorous when I have a conversation with my family about this, because this is where I know I am the only one with common sense, or they really are out of touch. I was talking to my mom about the sexual assault cases and she just brushed it off like it wasn't a big deal. I was like, this is horrible, why aren't you more mad? She said it was just what guys do. She said to ask dad, it's locker room talk. First off, my dad has never been in a locker room and he would never say that. Second, would you want anyone talking to me like that? When Donald Trump's recordings came out, if you imagined he was saying that to me, would you be proud or horrified? Would you say, that's my president, or would you say, he needs to be in jail. I know what I would say. I would never call him the first.
It is disgusting that someone on marriage 3 is preaching to me about family values and is taking away healthcare from people who need it. It is saddening that politicians are putting party over constituents. It is horrifying that people, including politicians, remember what the constitution really says.